You will find here all my articles relating to peronal development and learning.
« Inspiration exists, but it has to find us working », this quote, commonly attributed to Pablo Picasso, reminds us that ideas rarely emerge without commitment, practice, or perseverance. Yet it doesn’t always fit the reality…
Psychologists talk about FOMO (the Fear Of Missing Out). We could also translate that into the Fear to let something pass us by. But both phrasing seem incomplete. Because more often than we believe, what we truly fear is to miss with our own lives...
People often talk about burn-out as if it were a specific moment. A sudden collapse. But far less is said about what comes afterward : the return, which is not any easier to live through…
Creating when everything is going well is relatively simple. The momentum is there, ideas flow, the gesture follows. Creating when things are not going well is of a different nature. It means sitting with something we did not choose. A fatigue, a tension, a sadness. Sometimes even a void. And despite that, trying not to let everything freeze inside…
There are moments when talking does nothing. Words spin in circles. Even thinking becomes too heavy. And yet, at the sound of a few notes, a voice, a rhythm, something inside us shifts. Music does not solve life. But it settles beside us, present in the bright moments, as well as in those when everything spirals…
The feeling of belonging is a fundamental psychological need. It is vital. We seek it in the arms of a loved one, in a glance that understands without explanation, in a group that shares our values. But it can also arise in solitude, in a book that puts words to what we feel, or in the silence of a landscape that reminds us we are part of something greater…
In this strange hierarchy known as music criticism, everyone seems to believe they are entitled to judge a voice the moment it deviates by a millimetre from expectations. As if singing were nothing more than an extension of the person who owns it. The moment a singer steps outside the norm, people talk about flaws, not artistic choices...
For many people, dreaming feels like watching a movie : the scenes unfold, and we remain passive spectators. But lucid dreams offer us a whole new frame…
We all face problems that seem insurmountable. Whether they are related to relationships, work, health, or mental well-being, these challenges can make us feel stuck, unmotivated, or even experience a deep sense of emptiness. However, it is possible to break free from this state of stagnation by adopting a more thoughtful and proactive approach…
It’s natural to want respect. After all, humans are social creatures, and we seek validation from others. However, it’s equally natural for criticism to sting and cause emotional pain at times…
In our quest for success and happiness, we often conform to others' expectations. However, a more fulfilling approach lies in building our self-esteem on our own values, choices, and a deep understanding of our personality…
In a world where everything moves faster, where we are constantly solicited and overwhelmed by a flood of information, preserving our serenity becomes a true act of resistance. Building a serene future doesn’t happen overnight but through simple and meaningful habits that nurture our spirit, soothe our heart, and bring profound purpose to our lives. Here are a few keys to moving forward with calm, confidence, and joy…
Going through difficult times alongside our loved ones can be a real challenge. Whether it's personal problems or mental health issues, our first instinct is often to offer help and comfort. However, despite our good intentions, the complexity of human emotions and relational dynamics can make this task delicate...
Self-confidence and positive influence are crucial skills in our personal and professional lives. While some people may seem naturally gifted with these qualities, it is possible to develop them through thoughtful practices and a deep understanding of the principles of persuasion. By cultivating habits that foster self-confidence and applying ethical influence techniques, we can create more authentic and impactful interactions…
Mental wandering and intrusive thoughts are common phenomena that can become problematic in a world where our attention is constantly being pulled in different directions. Between professional commitments, an active social life, and time for oneself, it is crucial to learn how to manage a wandering mind and handle intrusive thoughts to maintain optimal concentration and productivity…
Becoming a better person and establishing a positive connection with our future self are two essential aspects of a fulfilling life. By merging these ideas, we can cultivate lasting happiness while fostering kind behaviours towards ourselves and others…
In today's professional world, technical skills and experience are essential, but another crucial asset is gaining importance: emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ). This key skill, which influences our success and well-being, deserves to be better understood and cultivated. Let's explore this concept and discover how it can transform our professional and personal lives...
The shame that accompanies psychosis is complex, biting, and multifaceted. It goes beyond the actions committed, extending to the very fact of having entered psychosis and having lost all self-control…
Self-parenting means giving ourselves the care and attention we lacked in our childhood. It means allowing our inner child to feel seen, heard, and protected. Without self-parenting, this inner child tries to protect us, but often by hindering our growth…
It would be naive to pretend that the past has no influence on us, because it shapes our conceptualization of life. And we are constantly invaded by the ghosts of the past, the good and the bad...
Trust is an essential element in any relationship, and trust issues can have repercussions in many areas of our lives. It can make our relationships more complicated, contribute to conflicts, and thwart the realization of our projects…
Our emotions have a major impact on the way we think and behave. On a day-to-day basis, they shape the way we perceive things, influencing our decisions and our responses to situations and their circumstances…
Everyone wants a bit of attention from time to time, it's a natural need for validation of our efforts. However, the constant need for attention is worrying, and shows symptoms of an underlying mental health problem...
Weaponized incompetence occurs when an individual consciously demonstrates ineptitude in order to avoid certain tasks or responsibilities, causing others to step in and perform the task for him or her. This way of thinking and proceeding creates an imbalance in any professional and/or personal relationship, showing that one colleague/partner is not performing well enough, while others have to pull out all the stops to make up for this lack of performance...
Toxic people always find a way to sneak into our lives. Not only can toxic people ruin our lives and hinder our progress, but they often drag us down and can turn us into toxic people in turn...
Many of us have found ourselves faced with a feeling of being down and out, of having no inspiration or motivation, and it's not uncommon for this feeling to last for weeks, months or even years. Getting out of this dark cloud requires us to be proactive when we feel we can’t...
It would seem that we should base ourselves on motivation, so that the events of our personal and professional lives stop haunting us and affecting those close to us. This same motivation is often exploited by psychologists, sociologists and scientists, both to praise it and to denigrate it...
Whether it's renovating the bathroom, starting a blog or exercising more, there's always something more we'd like to do, when our days already seem too full. The truth is that we can save time, without it being deducted from our sleep schedule...
Memory is a complex process involving a number of different, sometimes unsuspected, stages. By understanding the sequences behind these stages, we can better understand how our memory works and how it influences the quality of our recall...
Subvocalization is that little inner voice that we can hear when we read (we don't all hear it). Some people think it's necessary to get rid of it, others don't...
The « Grey Rock » strategy is to make ourselves boring (colourless) and unresponsive (immobile), in order to minimally engage with narcissists, manipulators, and their circuses…
In the era of technology and information, we are constantly exposed to an overwhelming amount of data. This information overload can lead to a phenomenon called information fatigue. In this article, we will explore the causes of information fatigue, its detrimental effects, and the strategies available to cope with it…
All too often we make promises lightly, because we make them without thinking or simply to reassure the other person. However, this nonchalant attitude can have real repercussions...
We laugh when movies and television show us, in a comical way, children taking care of childish, incompetent and/or toxic parents. But in reality, things are much more scathing...
For many people, fulfilled relationships mean sharing a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, while for others the relationship is complicated, even strategic...
While some research on parasocial relationships usually focuses on the friendly bonds between a user and a media character (a celebrity, an influencer, a fictional character, an anime character) or any other figure they encounter through media, series, movies, podcasts, TV shows, radio shows via social media platforms (Twitter, Instagram or TikTok, ...), let's discover together the hidden side of these relationships ...
Social media/networks have become an omnipresent part of our daily lives. This is neither a good nor a bad thing in itself, but a new facet of our social life that we need to be fully aware of and to protect our mental health against...
Letting another person speak without interrupting is often presented as the obvious basis for communication. It is not necessarily a matter of listening to the end of a long speech, but also of doing so within the framework of a thought that has not yet been fully expressed when the interlocutor has the floor...
Creativity, some are overflowing with it, others think they don't have any and still others perceive it as a waste of time and energy. Let's find out why we should take the time to cultivate this tool and the powers it hides...
We often hear about failures : a role refused to an actor/actress despite a promising audition, an entrepreneur whose project is considered scabrous when everything seemed to indicate that it would be revolutionary, etc. And yet, these are the same people who end up reaching for the stars and find their spot among them. So why are we so afraid to try anything, just by fear of screwing up…
In childhood, we were afraid of the dark. But once the light came back on, we could see that what scared us was part of our environment. Unfortunately, we have learned to be afraid of the dark, because it symbolizes the unknown and the negative. Yet it is our ally...
Listening to music is quite common in our daily lives. But the desire to listen to music comes from its influence on our various emotional and affective factors associated with...
Suicide has long been a serious public health problem. That is why we need to talk about suicide and keep talking about it. This subject remains taboo for many people even though suicide attempts are significantly more frequent than we think...
One of the most misunderstood and misperceived practices is therapy. Yet it has the power to change our lives, it is essential for our growth and for healing some of our wounds. And although mental illnesses are strongly stigmatized, our mental health is important and detrimental...
We all know it, practicing a sport activity regularly is great for our body. Practicing sports helps us protect our cardiovascular system and strengthen our immune system, while promoting our sleep and increasing our metabolism. But what we know less is that practicing sports is also beneficial for our neurons...
When it comes to health and wellness, physical health is the first thing that comes to mind. However, we are not told much about mental health. However, this includes our psychological, social, emotional well-being and affects our way of thinking, feeling and acting on a daily basis...
It is easy to forget or put aside our needs when our work environment, our surroundings (our day, in general) require our presence or our intervention. If we let ourselves get caught up in these elements, let ourselves be influenced by others, and we lose track of what is good for us, we must find our way back to our priorities...
Let's face it, we will be made fun of. We will feel insecure. We won't always be the best. We will occasionally feel alone, but we are also and above all the only ones who can change our life...
If we feel like we have sleepwalked for a long time without noticing the limits that have been imposed on us or those that we have imposed on ourselves, and now we can see them being obstacles, we need to understand them and make meaningful changes and sustainable to our life to not to fall back into their faults...
We have worked a lot on ourselves, having changed our habits or taking development courses, and those around us are not encouraging or eager to grow with us. And suddenly, this long road seems like nothing but disappointment. Let’s not let our efforts evaporate...
The growing number of people who are exhausted and in search of a better life does not coincide by accident with the rise in popularity of PERSONAL development books and videos...
Do we feel that judgment, negative talk, and anger are a big part of our day or of us? Looking at how we are feeling and being honest with ourselves gives us the opportunity to know how to adapt and progress from now on...
No one can break us, unless we allow it. The opinions of others don't matter, unless we value them. What matters is what we say to the person standing, every morning in the mirror...
In November 2018, I presented Mel Robbins' book « Stop Saying You’re Fine ». Since then I have delved into the subject and discovered some psychological factors that use our synapses against us...
Some feel compelled to give us advice, because they think a shy person is looking for help and a silent person has no opinion. But unsolicited advice is also a domination attempt...
We all have an area/sector in which we want to improve (whether professional or personal). Either way, we know there is a lot we can accomplish. What is important is to keep learning, in addition to training our brains, we expand our skills and extend our well-being...